I have been watching this happen for the past two years now... Hoping in fear that it would never happen to me. Im talking about the point when, a friend who use to be my "go to" bar hopping buddy grows out of the scene. It happens slowly, and there is a solid 5 month transition period. In the first phase, they still come out with me but have to get really drunk to have fun. Then the hangovers and silly Fax pas made under laser lights and house music further remind them of their fleeting desire to go out. The second phase is the worst though.. that's when they still go out, but have learned from phase 1, not to drink too much. They just simply go out, plan to be DD and have no fun. This goes on for the duration of the time until they fall off the radar completely. I have watched 2-3 of my fallen soldier best friends carry out the phases and leave me dancing alone on the bar. Today, I find myself with a much different group of friends that I had a year or two ago. It hit me this weekend that I have not only begun this natural progression but am finding myself smack dab between phase 1 and 2. I never thought this would happen to me! I can already see the fear in my friends eyes that I am on the tail end of this Scottsdale bar hoping train.
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it happens with age my friend . I use to be the biggest bar rat on college that's all I wanted to do on weekends. I was never a big drinker only wanted to go and dance. 1 day you just wake up and the whole scene just feel so old and boring like your totally over it . think of the last time I went out and dance at a bar in scottsdale was 2 years ago . I was 26 then. I still go out to the bars now just not so much for the club scene.
I agree with CMae. I'll be 29 this April, and I'd say for the last two years I have made the transition from industry/club worker/frequenter to languishing over a cozy night in with my honey.
I'll be honest, I didn't even really want to go out for NYE, but all our friends did. In my eyes, NYE was "amateur night" when I was "Miss Party Pants." Yes, that was my REAL nickname.
Soon, your desire to pound tequila shots and dance on bars will fade away, and you'll long for nice dinners at fancy resturants with your girlfiends over a FEW cocktails.
Ha ha! GREAT post lady. Unfortunately...it is true, that with age & time we transition ourselves out of such phases. The going out becomes the staying in!!! WELCOME aboard :)
ahh I am one of those fallen soldiers you're speaking of. I used to go to see a live music show 3-5 times a week. Drinks would be flowing, music would be loud, drunken dancing and debauchery would ensue. :p But then I moved further away from the city. The drive was longer, so my alcohol intake would be less (for safety). My work hours would be earlier since the commute was longer, so bedtime came quicker. Then I couldn't stay out as late or be hungover the next morning...etc. etc.
I see that crowd a couple times a year, now, at most. They're still the same, I'm the one who changed. I'm happy. They're happy. We're just not happy together ;) It's bound to happen. I stopped wanting to go out, especially if i wasn't going to be drinking. I'd look around and think to myself "that is what I looked like when I was partying...embarassing". I was loud and obnoxious. having fun, but not without some copious amounts of alcohol!!!
I've "been there; done that" for enough years. Now it's time to enjoy some quiet time..yet still have fun! I'd say my "change" happened when I was 33...maybe you will hang in there!!
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I still like to have my fun but not anywhere like I used to. Its more a monthly thing now than a weekly thing. I guess I'm about the stage where you are, that being said, let's go get wild for old times sake.
oh the going out phase...i remember growing out of it. and to be honest, don't miss going out one bit. i am a total homebody now, i love being at home. i'd rather have drinks (when not preggers) at home and be with friends at my house, knowing i don't have anywhere to drive. and friends can stay the night if they like.
i don't mind going out once in a while but i love home :)
Hahaha... it's the classy 25's hitting you hard!- Claudia
I think I've become that friend that transitioned out of the club scene... all of a sudden one weekend, i realized it and didn't even when it happened!
oh my, how i've struggled with this same thing. but i go through phases where i won't leave my house no matter what, then like a switch is flipped, i wanna go out all the time and dance all night and drink like i'm 19 again. i think my body wishes i'd make up my mind! haha.
Just found your blog and I feel like I wrote this post myself! Haha Couldn't be more fitting to my life right now but oh well! I enjoy my nights in and productive days due to not being hungover!!
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